Sunday, May 03, 2009

of marriage, toofs

in june david and i will be married 7 years. that's a long time! but, and i hope/think he would agree, i really feel that just now we are hitting our stride and digging deep into the meaning of marriage. ahem, a happy marriage. not that we havn't loved each other (we have!) and not that we havn't known each other (we have!) it's just that i guess i feel it could be a combination of things that are leading me to this. perhaps it's our phase of life, a sort of late-twenties milestone where you just start accepting who you are and give up pretenses and all the fuss that marks the era from adolescence until your mid-twenties. couple that with our spiritual growth and general growth in life (though these two are of course intertwined). i guess i just feel that we are in a period of growth in our marriage where we, really for the first time, are actively (and not passively) trying to meet each others needs. there are inevitably areas in peoples relationships where you are kind of polar opposites, whether by genetic predisposition/personality type or upbringing and hey, guess what that causes some real clashes when you get intimate with someone. that is where marriages are happy or not - how you deal with those (seemingly) impassible divides. i'm certainly not saying we don't clash but i will say we do not fight anymore, like we did when we were first married. oh my word who thought it was a good idea to get married when we were 20 & 21! just picture me singin' bon jovi livin on a prayer because man there were some days of brawling simply because we were immature, self interested kids. anyways - david and i have really been trying to give each other grace to be who we are, to give up any dream that the other will fulfill our every hope for a relationship/partner/friend and let God fill that role, while simultaneously challenging the other to be a better person and give whatever we can to the other by way of support. it goes without saying that this is pretty tough but it makes for a happy life together if you are both doing it.

also pray for me, tomorrow im going to the dentist for a cleaning and to get a filling redone. im kind of freaked out & don't do well in these kinds of situations.


don't forget this week is bike to work week folks!!

5 comments:

meridith said...

this is a great post, congrats on 7 wonderful years! thank you for your honesty. it's really good to hear that perspective.

Kathleen said...

That's awesome that you guys are going to have 7 years under your belt. A lot of people get the so-called "7 year itch" and then things just go bonkers. I've been shopping for a bike for about 2 weeks now and I can't seem to find anything a.) affordable and b.) fits my short frame. any suggestions? :)

jenny mae. said...

david works at roll at easton. they can totally help you find the ideal bike. they have a fancy schmancy machine that will give you the perfect dimensions for your bike too!

Kathleen said...

oh dood i don't think I can afford those...

jenny mae. said...

have you looked into a bike coop? i can get you info if you are interested. also check out once ridden bikes on indianola near hudson.